How do you describe the absence of a problem?
On the surface it sounds obvious, the absence of the problem is described by me telling you that the problem is no longer present.
But knowing that you have been successful at getting rid of something is difficult, the absence of something is hard to know.
For example lets say you are a Manager and you know that one of your self-limiting behaviors (Negative Temperament (-T)) is your temper. You know that your fuse is short and you are known around the office to SCREAM when you are set off. This behavior is really blocking you from being successful and has been pointed out as the main reason you have been passed over for that promotion you deserved and wanted; This is a problem.
Let’s try to image the absence of the feeling that you are going to lose your temper and SCREAM.
How do you do that?
Is it like imagining the absence of the computer you are reading this on? Do you imagine just staring at the wall or using a different computer? An empty space on your desk?
Admit it, you are comparing staring at an empty space with reading this on the computer you are imagining is absent. The same things are involved in imagining the absence of your short fuse. It always involves comparing the absence of your temper with the presence of feeling non-temperamental. By default thinking about your temper and SCREAMING enters into your thoughts for a needed comparison. This may lead to a continuation of your temper problem!