My arrogance & continuous belief that we can find, learn & develop a path to make things better AND find acceptance that you are successful in doing what you are doing. Focusing on flaws allows those flaws to take control, losing what makes you great. Building your flaws makes you mediocre & the flaws bigger.
The hope is that when you can focus on the exceptions what is happening when the problem is absent you will identify and strengthen the solution – what you want to have happen.
In moments of confusion and stress, with work and family, having a system to follow is useful.
How would you recognize which string is your solution?
At the end of day 3 we were all losing patience and we felt it was hopeless…so I tried the following version of the Miracle Question.
The cooperation loop is a mindset of working to find cooperation…any size large and small and develop practice of building from that cooperation.
I argue that it works way better than the resistance loop and the results are greater for everyone.
We find it easier to join the crowd and complain. As opposed to being the outcast who sees the supposed-enemy as a possible-cooperator.
Looking for a Solution Finding Stimulus?
When I feel overwhelmed, lost, stuck, unsure of what to do (that happens every day)…Having a method to focus my thoughts and next steps brings me back to getting work done.
There is a false belief that the actions and behaviors we see in the present have always happened, and that they must continue. While problems are important and must be acknowledged, the more effective focus is to determine the solution – what we want to have happen. This happens through a solution focused process of looking for exceptions and finding already existing small steps to take.
Someone new was brought in that has solved something similar before.
What is the 1st thing they would notice about your challenge?
What would be their 1st step in solving this?